Archive for the Caregiver Tag

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The Blessings of Cancer

My intent was pure, but my chest was tight. I really wanted this.  As each member of the group entered the room I introduced myself and I was welcomed with hearty handshakes, but I also noticed the sideways glances. I was welcome, but not one of them. This was a group of cancer fighters, a group of men who shared
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Charlie Brown Goes to the Opera

Ain’t life grand? With just a few button pushes, we can listen to music, read the headlines, or communicate across the world, but in spite of these modern     miracles, technology still struggles to express the very nuances that make us human. Very recently, I posted on Facebook that I purchased tickets to a Broadway show coming to town,
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Why Men Run

A Man’s Definition of Caregiving: where every man’s greatest fears of failure are confirmed on a daily basis. If given the right training and appropriate gear, I could stroll the surface of Mars.  In fact, I could walk into a suicide mission if I was convinced that my sacrifice would weaken the enemy and save innocent lives. In short, if
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Ho, ho, ho, and happy new year

Holidays bring stress. That’s a fact, at least in my family. But we’re a battle-tested group, small but mighty, combat-proven over the last four years of war against cancer. But the holidays seem to always know our weaknesses. This year it was my weakness that was exploited. After not being under the weather for four years, I was finally felled
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I Was Honored to Be A Guest!

This morning I was a guest of Denise Brown of www.caregiving.com on her weekly radio show called Table Talk. It was wonderful to speak to someone with such a depth of caregiving experience!  The show is here. Related articles How Do You Adjust to the Reality of Caregiving? Managing Your Caregiving Fears Tweet

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Guessing, Like the Weather

Things are quiet tonight, but not “normal”. “Normal” is not the right word to describe us, perhaps “status quo” is better; things are “status quo”, but never “normal”. In the last two months, we have survived two “Death Rehearsals”, a pair of medical emergencies that presented like “the end”, but were simply all-encompassing-energy-sucking practice sessions. Yeah, like we needed them.
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Welcome to the Progressive Blog Party!

  Recently, I was lucky enough to find a website called Caregiving.com. It’s dedicated to caregivers and caregiving, hence the catchy title. In all honesty, I can tell you that I have sought refuge there on tough days, and hopefully, I’ve left words of encouragement on others. It provides great value to me by reminding me I am not alone.
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Death Rehearsal

    Our cat sleeps on her bed tonight. My wife also sleeps, though her irregular breathing concerns me, as it always does. It’s an idyllic setting in our home, except that I am not just burned out, I am torched from a seven-day death rehearsal, a painful week of intense caregiving. I am empty. The Thanksgiving week started with
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The Screaming Need for Silence

  I love my wife dearly, and I take my duties as her primary caregiver very seriously, almost religiously. I also have a full-time job in the computer geek world, a part-time job in the music world, and a passion for writing that demands its own pound of my flesh. When I am in balance, I can handle those responsibilities
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Everyday, Everynight, and Neverday

Today is “Kiss a Caregiver Day!” Of course, the date can be arbitrary since any day qualifies as kiss a caregiver day, and please believe me that kisses and hugs are greatly appreciated on any day. But keep in mind, while the world is filled with good intentions, caregivers get it done. Caregiving is not about the good days versus
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